Teen Girl Invite Boyfriend on Family Beach Trip
Would you invite your 17 yo son's girlfriend on a family unit vacation?
Dec 22nd, 2003, 07:31 PM
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Would y'all invite your 17 yo son'due south girlfriend on a family holiday?
Would yous invite your 17 year old son's girlfriend on a family holiday?
December 22nd, 2003, 07:35 PM
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how well do you know her?
exercise you like her?
Dec 22nd, 2003, 07:38 PM
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I'm the out of town stepmother so I take never met her earlier. Only they are in LOVE and are inseparable. Sigh. It might exist a chance to get to know her? I merely know my parents would take never given me the option, but today is a different world..
Dec 22nd, 2003, 07:44 PM
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He'll live for some time without her. I wouldn't invite her.
December 22nd, 2003, 07:46 PM
I have a well-nigh 17 year old son and no, I wouldn't invite a girlfriend. You'll accept to watch them like a militarist and that'southward no vacation! Accept him invite a buddy instead. He'll take a friend to hang with and you'll slumber well at night. Good luck; you'll probably be met with howls of protest if you follow my advice! Hold firm and savour your vacation without two heavy-on-the-hormones teenagers.
Signed, one who has seen it all before
Dec 22nd, 2003, 08:03 PM
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Dec 22nd, 2003, 08:12 PM
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No, from a girl whose parents brought forth the young man all those years ago.... bad idea! Practiced luck!
Dec 22nd, 2003, 08:42 PM
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Admittedly not. They'll live without each other for a couple of weeks, and you'll sleep at night.
Dec 22nd, 2003, 09:05 PM
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Thanks for the advice so far.
Recollect the Chevy Chase Family unit Vacation movies? When they start came out, I loved them because the parents were merely as odd as mine. At present that I'one thousand a parent, I sympathize/empathize with the Mom and Dad roles.
Dec 23rd, 2003, 03:55 AM
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Didn't you say in another mail service that you all would be staying in a 2 BR condo?
Which BR will the girlfriend slumber in....yours or the 17 yr old son's?
Dec 23rd, 2003, 05:45 AM
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December 23rd, 2003, 05:49 AM
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When he can pay for it, he can invite her...
Dec 23rd, 2003, 06:09 AM
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what does your husband think?
Dec 23rd, 2003, 06:11 AM
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I remember your title is an oxymoron. If you invite the son'due south girlfriend on the "family vacation" it volition no longer be a family holiday. Those ii volition be in their own earth. You can throw out the idea of experiencing the vacation as a "family".
December 23rd, 2003, 06:37 AM
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obxgirl, the other ii kids in the family are girls then 17 yo son will bunk on the living room's burrow, extra guest or not.
MelissaBeckoff, Dad and I both have mixed feelings on this and willing to come across it from other points of view. The reality of the matter is he'll exist 18, off to college, and before long a young man. We realize we volition see less and less of him, especially non existence the custodial parents.
We don't want to cater to him but nosotros do want to keep to chronicle to him. This tin be very hard when he misses everything which is familiar to him (the daughter and the band.) Sigh. Big sigh.
Delight keep up the advice.
December 23rd, 2003, 06:50 AM
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Our son was a teenager once.
He went on FAMILY vacations with the states.
We never invited anyone Exterior the family unit. There is a fourth dimension and identify for this sort of affair, and nosotros never thought that including a teenage girlfriend was appropriate (even if her parents would agree) or neccessary.
Now if I were having a vacation when I would invite lots of people outside of the firsthand family, then of course, my children could invite a friend besides.
I think it is sending the incorrect message to a kid notwithstanding living at habitation, when his parents are willing to bring forth the girlfriend on a family holiday.
But then, all families are different, but since y'all ask on a forum such as this, I feel free to voice my opinion 
I take a feeling that part of this dilemma of yours is due to beingness a StepMother, you desire him to like you. I don't retrieve this is the way to go about it.
And past the manner-in case yous have no retentivity of your own teen years, 17 year olds are IN LOVE every week with a different person 
Dec 23rd, 2003, 06:52 AM
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No. If you want to run across the girlfriend, go visit your son. It'south amazing that he can't exist separted from his girlfiend for a week or two family vacation, just he'll survive going to college without here. He'll gain a better lesson by you being business firm, and you'll truly accept a family vacation, instead of existence on scout the entire time.
December 23rd, 2003, 06:53 AM
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Allow me raise one other consequence you might desire to consider when dealing with that heavy-hormone age: They have lots of fights. Do y'all want to adventure being subjected to one of them while yous're on holiday?
For a lot of reasons, the reply to your question is, as the lawyers say, categorically no.
Dec 23rd, 2003, 06:58 AM
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Great thread. NO!
Skillful to see then many people accept pulled out of the nosedive we had during the 70s and 80s wih our kids.
Dec 23rd, 2003, 07:00 AM
You enquire for more advice, wsoxrebel, merely I think it'south a safe bet that you will just receive more than of the aforementioned--a resounding "no." I can sympathize with your desire to have this boy like you past doing what he wants, but this is non the way to exercise it!
If the daughter comes along, all you lot volition run across is kissy-kissy 24/seven. That gets pretty erstwhile, pretty fast. They will non have any involvement in seeing or doing anything with the rest of the family. They will be a constant worry to yous (and you lot know why). This is what y'all want for your family vacation?
He tin can alive without her for a week. Information technology's not as if yous're depriving him of life's necessitites! Just tell him very sweetly, "Absence makes the heart grow fonder."
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